Lilith is showing every sign on earth of being my dog. That
may sound a bit odd but not every dog a person lives with is their dog. Some
people never make a canine part of the family and just keep them as lawn
ornaments. Some people keep dogs for reasons I cannot explain. Not taking a dog
in as part of the pack is just plain wrong and it’s like keeping some rare and
irreproducible form of art on a chain in the yard or out away from the house in
a pen. I cannot be around a chained dog.
I just can’t.
But some dogs cleave to a person tighter than others do. Sam
and I have never had that bond and he’s been with me for a dozen years, nearly.
Lucas and I picked up on it after ten minutes. Bert and I grew into it and our
relationship changed for the better after the divorce but Bert was always my
dog. I think he knew what was going on before I did. And it does happen that
way; sometimes you choose a dog, sometimes a dog chooses you, and sometimes you
choose each other.
Lillith likes fire. I’ve never seen a dog with an attraction
for flame before but the process seems to mesmerize Lillith as much as it does me.
Even when it’s warm out she likes to sit beside the fire and watch. Moreover,
she likes to play in the ashes. I’m going to have to put some tin up around the
firepit to keep Lillith out of the embers. This is a strange little dog I have
here.
I’m not sure where Lillith lived before the rescue people
got her but I am sure anyone who cares anything about a dog would have never
willingly surrendered this little girl. I keep calling her little but the truth
is Lillith is beginning to pick up some mass. She is nearly as tall as Sam and
Lillith is bulking out more than Sam ever did. Still, Lillith is quite lithe
and light. She’s more agile than Lucas and she can take him down at a dead run.
Some of this, I suspect, is Lucas playing along with the game, but Lillith is a
fierce hunter of the Wild Loki Mutt.
There’s never been a dog I knew who was as aloof as Lillith.
Maybe that isn’t the right word. She will lie down on a blanket somewhere and
that is where she will stay. The other two dogs and I will be in a different
room or go from one room to another and Lillith stays put. I didn’t think too
much about this, me being a Hermit and all, but then I thought “What if she
doesn’t feel welcome here?” So I started calling into the room with us whenever
she was away for too long. It took Lillith a while to start asking to be petted
and when she did it seemed to make her nervous. She would approach me with
great caution and tap me with a paw then back away and wag her body at me. An
invitation caused her great joy and excitement. I started seeking her out and
lying on the floor with her to get her used to the idea she was supposed to be
affectionate with me. Lillith has come a long way and now she’ll even put both
paws on me when I’m writing to get petted on a dog’s head. But she is so very
polite about it.
Sam has never really liked any other dog except Bert. I
think Sam tolerates Lucas because Lucas could dismantle him but won’t. Sam
certainly isn’t as enamored with Lillith as Lucas is. Lucas is totally in love
with the little girl dog I brought home. The two of them would make a great
breeding pair if they were not both fixed. Watching those two at play is one of
the things that makes life where I live what it is. Space for dogs to play is
heaven on earth. Twice Sam has snarled at Lillith and taken up aggressive
posture and twice Lucas has stepped between them, not pushing, not growling,
not really asserting himself in any way except for that of proximity and mass. Oh
hai I am the Loki Mutt and you are growling at my girl so I will stand this
close to you until you realize how close to my mouth your mouth is and maybe
those growls won’t come out of your mouth anymore. It’s the equivalent to a
gorilla walking up with a bat in each hand during a domestic dispute. If you really, really, really, want to amp up
the volume then that’s just fine I’ll just stand here with enough force to kill
you outright. Sam, twice now, has slowly backed away from the Moose Mutt.
Other than playing hard with Lucas, Lillith hasn’t shown to
possess an ounce of aggression. She licks Sam on his face when he growls at her
and she shows her belly to everyone who meets her. Lillith is a sweet tempered
little girl. She wants to be rubbed on her ears and be held. This is a dog that
will take a position at my side on the bed and lay longside next to me with her
head on my shoulder.
So when someone sent me an email saying, “You’re going to
have trouble with that dog later on” because Lillith is a Pit, it pissed me
off. Lillith will give me as much trouble as my training of her allows me to
have. I am the person responsible for her behavior. I am the person responsible
for her attitude when something happens. I have been training dogs for a while
now. I think I know what I am doing and I damn well do not need some apartment
dwelling petless internet news addict to tell me the disposition of an animal
living next to me.
Take Care,
Mike
I agree with your last paragraph 100%!
ReplyDeleteI think Lillith is *exactly* where she has always been destined to be :)
Thank you very much Chatrient!
DeleteOur stupid government here (UK) made laws based on the prejudice expressed in your last paragraph! Pitbulls and pitbull types are illegal here! When will people learn it is the person that creates dangerous dogs and not the breed?
ReplyDeleteNice writing as usual, Mike. :-)
There is no informed person on this earth who believes these dogs to be dangerous. I cannot believe the amount of haltered out there.
DeleteAnd thank you!
That shot of Lillith and Lucas laying together is worth a million bucks Mike :) She is where she is supposed to be and you are a loving dad. I truly believe in the thought that sometimes we choose the dog and sometimes they choose us.
ReplyDeleteYour three are lucky and blessed to have such a caring home, and you in return receive the kind of unconditional love that only a pet can give. And we, your friends, your readers...well, we get a glimpse of beautiful, heart-felt writing that touches our soul. It's a win, win, win :)
When Sam goes, and it won't be very long, I will start the search again.
DeleteI keep wondering who I will find, or who will find me.
Whoever does will be very lucky :)
ReplyDeleteAs will I!
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